I am not sure if I wrote about this before– but I just wrote a sex scene and I did follow some rules that I read about s0mewhere:
- make it realistic– and rather down to earth
- the world doesn’t come to an end with great sex
- keep the language simple and stay away from cliches (most of metaphors are cliches)
- don’t slow it down and do it in real time unless you are writing erotica
The scene I wrote was between husband and wife and showed dynamics of their relationship but definitely was not pornographic.