If I stop trying to control myself and everyone around me, I find that it is easier to stay in the present. I am more relaxed in the group I lead, and much more relaxed when I take care of a friend with dementia on Thursdays. I was a wreck trying to control him.
And I don’t need to manage the moods of people around me.
The result is that I do stay more present and I am able to stop thinking altogether at times– to give my brain a rest. This puts me more in touch with my feelings and my body so I am getting more information about feelings and sensations to put in my novel. Also I am more observant (and feel more loving).
I am beginning to be able to play with words again, rather than needing to control every word in the poem and write something great. Instead the process is enough and so I am starting to enjoy writing again.
If I enjoy writing, there won’t be any writer’s block.