Great suffering can produce great art; repressing our suffering can lead to writer’s block.
It is true that many writers have gone through extremely painful times. It is no surprise that alcoholics, bipolar and depressed artists have created great works of art. It isn’t remarkable that our greatest President, Abraham Lincoln, suffered from major depression his entire life.
In creating great characters one has got to touch one’s own suffering. All of us have been betrayed, hurt, abandoned, ignored, rejected, bullied, lifted up, inspired, applauded, All of that goes into the novel. One writing book said that whatever you are going through– anxiety, depression, fear… it belongs in the book. Your character is probably going through the same thing.
Witness the depths of what you have been through. You’ll have enough material to work through. No wonder one writer remarked that if you had a bad childhood you have enough material for a lifetime.
Valuing all your experiences will deepen your writing. Repressing your own memories and experiences can flatten your writing and create writer’s block.