Do your friends give or take energy from you?
I have fibromyalgia, myofascial pain syndrome and chronic fatigue– leaving me exhausted and in pain most of the time. I’ve learned to live with it and I think I have a pretty wonderful life.
But I spent years forcing myself to overcome the fatigue and pain, only to collapse a day or two later unable to get out of bed. Or I would force myself to keep working and I think I damaged my body doing it over and over again.
So I’ve changed how I live. I work for only a few hours two or three days a week. Luckily, I work quickly. Sundays, I sleep.
Even without chronic fatigue, most of us are tired. We are working more hours than ever, then coming home often to take care of kids or parents or both. If that isn’t enough, some of are involved in community service. Add it all up, when on earth can we write?
I think the answer is to look closely at what gives us energy and what takes it away? Who gives us energy, who takes it away? I’ve been good about identifying the activities that energize me and most of my friends also energize me. I wish I felt better more of the time– I would see more of my friends.
But I’ve got to arrange my life once again if I am going to complete the novels I want to write and continue writing poetry. I’ll let you know how it goes.
Right now I am tired, and I am going to listen to Jacqueline du Pre’s recording of Haydn’s Cello Concerto followed by Itzhak Perlman’s recording of Brahm’s Violinkonzert. Daniel Barenboim (du Pre’s husband) conducted both performances.